Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve by Matthew Hussey Published by Harper Wave on February 11, 2014
Pages: 272
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It’s another dating advice book!!!
I’m not even embarrassed to admit that I read them. I don’t always take the advice provided but I guess that’s why I’m still single?
I had seen Matthew Hussey’s videos on social media and you tube and decided to take the plunge and download his book. I got the audiobook this time and normally I have reservations about audiobooks but Matthew is easy to listen to and I made an effort to listen to the book in big chunks. It helped to listen to the book as I was driving, cleaning and walking the dog.
I don’t know if I had any lightbulb moments that I hadn’t read or heard about before from other dating books/websites, etc but I think I respected the advice a tiny bit more because it was coming from a man. Matthew is logical. Logic is what I need when it comes to dating. I tend to be a bit more emotional and sometimes this impacts how I date and relate to men.
There are a couple of things I took from Matthew’s book – the first and most important one being – I need to meet the guy to get the guy. Anyone who knows me well knows I’m a hermit who actually enjoys being at home more than having to go out on dates or go to places to meet people. Matthew’s advice is to attempt to meet and talk to people everywhere you go (train, shops, waiting for coffee) which is incredibly challenging for me. People who know me well wouldn’t say I’m shy either, but it is very hard for me to put myself out there and talk to strangers (let alone men) without a good reason. It sounds so simple, but he is so right with this point. SO – I may be saying yes to more outings, be more open to dates and start talking to random strangers as a result….even if I’m reluctant to start with…
Another tip I like a lot, which isn’t new advice to me but I really need to work on it. Being a woman of high value. Matthew talks about women realising their worth and being able to walk away from relationships or situations that are not meeting their needs. I’m getting better at this, slowly. I have no time for men who don’t want what I want currently and I’m no longer afraid to tell them what I’m looking for. I’m still working on the confidence bit.
The book also has a few great tips for flirting, talking, starting a relationship and even how to keep the flame going once you’ve got the guy. Matthew used to be a dating coach for men, so he comes from an interesting perspective. In the book he states that he understands what both men and women want when it comes to dating so this could make his advice also a little more trustworthy to me. Matthew talks about women approaching men and makings some of the initial moves in conversation, which is contrary to a lot of other dating advice books I’ve read…that are written by women. I am going to attempt to put his advice to the test, even if I feel/look like a weirdo in the process.
I did have one nice date last week. So there is hope!
About Matthew Hussey
M atthew Hussey, speaker, New York Times Bestselling author, columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine, and dating expert on ABC’s digital series What To Text Him Back.
Matthew’s rise to success as a motivational speaker has been meteoric. From humble beginnings working as a life coach with individual clients in London’s coffee shops and cafes, Hussey now runs programs across the globe, helping thousands of men and women reach their true performance potential. In packed conference rooms across the US and UK, or on week-long retreats in luxury locations in Europe and America, Hussey and his team have created tailor-made programs designed to help clients transform their lives. Hussey’s private clients through his life-coaching brand have included directors of major FTSE 500 companies, hedge-fund managers, and celebrities such as Christina Aguilera, whom he worked with in July 2011. His corporate clients include Hugo Boss, The Perfume Shop, Virgin Gyms, Proctor & Gamble, Bare Escentuals, U.S. legal giant Weil Gotshal & Manges, and global management consultants Accenture.
Hussey has lectured at Oxford University to the Department of Neuroethics. He has rooted his business in private coaching work, which has often focused on confidence issues that impacted relationships. As a result, he began to gain recognition helping men with their love lives. For two years, this became a major focus of his work, and he conducted several hundred seminars for large groups of men on this subject, as well as coaching many more men on a one-to-one basis. As his reputation grew, Hussey found himself approached by increasing numbers of women, eager to hear what he had learned about the male perspective on love and romance. In 2008 Hussey created GetTheGuy, focusing exclusively on relationships. The brand established Hussey as one of the leading experts in the field of human attraction in the U.K. and U.S.
Now through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.
